A new bedroom trend could lead to rape charges. The trend, “stealthing,” is nonconsensual and disturbing.
“Stealthing” is when the male without the woman’s secretly removes condom in the middle of sex. A new report on this trend was completed by the Columbia Journal of Gender and Law. The report documents the rise of this disturbing trend reports USA Today.
Alexandra Brodsky, the lead author of the new report, argues that if a man removes his condom without a woman’s consent or knowledge, the sexual act is no longer consensual, but instead is a form of assault. He goes on to say the incident should be treated as a sexual assault. Brodsky continued by saying what is maybe even more troubling than the trend itself is the fact that there is an online community where men encourage other men to “stealth” when having sex.
The perpetrators on this website are gay and straight and appear to believe that it is a man’s right to “spread his seed” whether a woman gives consent or not, reports FOX 8. Brodsky states that one of the reasons she penned this report and is proposing a new statue be put into place is to provide the facts and begin a vocabulary to create a way for people to openly discuss what a common experience is.
Brodsky’s report opens by introducing Rebecca, a student who works for a rape crisis hotline. She shares with Brodsky that the numbers of calls from women who state they were “stealthed,” has greatly increased.
Rebecca says that the women who tell their stories all often start the same way. They tell her they are uncertain if what happened to them can be considered rape. The victims all feel violated, but lack the vocabulary to figure out if they can say that they were sexually assaulted, reports the New York Post.
Brodsky says that “stealthing” should be labeled a sexual assault because it leaves the victim vulnerable to HIV, pregnancy and STD’s. “Stealthing” causes emotional, financial and physical harm. The same type of harms that occur during a violent sexual assault.
Brodsky states that she spoke with one victim of “stealthing” who called the act “rape-adjacent.” Another victim stated that what her partner did was a “blatant violation of what we agreed to.” Because there are no laws that cover “stealthing,” Brodsky says that a new statue would be the best way to address what too many women are now experiencing.
In a Swiss court, a man was convicted of rape because he removed his condom without his partner’s knowledge or consent. The court came to the conclusion the woman would have declined to have sex if she had she known he would take the condom off during sex.
By Tammy Marie Rose